Don’t let that person who allowed his/her dream to die talk you out of your dreams. Be careful for there are dream killers lurking around to make you give up on your dreams. Don’t let this happen to you. Dream killers are those who will go along with you as long as you keep your dreams to yourself. Whenever you put your dreams out there and are transparent about it, they start to feel bad. When you tell people your dream, just watch their facial expressions, it will tell you something about whether they are happy for you, or they wish your dream dead.
A few years ago, I was part of a men’s group and was excited to share my dreams and what I had accomplished so far with them. I told them of my twelve-acre property near the lake, the farm, the training center, and the small houses on the property for rental, the orchard full of exotic seedless orange trees, and so on. There were about thirty-five men at this meeting. I talked about the property not to impress them but rather to impress upon them that dreams do come true and that each one of them was capable of achieving his dreams. The place went very quiet as I saw sadness and jealousy in their attitudes and behaviors. I felt very sad after the meeting and asked the leader whether I’d said something wrong. To this he responded, “No, but remember people are people.” I had wanted to take these men to the property for a fun time, but I changed my mind. Be careful with whom you share your dreams.
The main dream killer is you. What are you telling yourself on a daily basis about your dream? Negative thinking or negativity will always surface many times on your journey to achieving your dreams. Do not allow negativity in the form of an obstacle, challenge, or adversity stop you from moving forward. Try to exploit negative circumstances to your advantage. What keeps you awake at night? Is it your dream being fulfilled or is it not? A lot of people have been instrumental in the demise of their own dreams. These people talk themselves out of their dreams at the smallest obstacle they encounter. Dream killers are there to stop you so you have to stay focused and nurture your dreams to life. Dream killers include parents, who talk you out of your dreams in the name of protecting you from disappointment when things don’t go the way you have planned. They also include teachers, who think your performance in class is a reflection of your achievement tomorrow and say things like, “That dream is for someone else and not you.” Another dream killer might be your boss, who thinks that because of a few mistakes and missed deadlines you will not be able to deliver on your dreams. Listen to what they have to say, but make your own decisions concerning your dreams. Your friends who don’t believe in you or rather those who pretend to be your friends will talk you out of your dreams.
Perhaps it’s time to detox your friendships. Take a moment to reflect on your friends. Are they inspiring, encouraging, and empowering, and are they there to support you through the tough times? Are your friends great dreamers who can support you through the times of change and transformation, or are they friends who jump ship at the first sign of adversity? If you are going to spend your life with friends, they’d better be leading you in the direction you want to go, and if not, what’s the point? Other dream killers include: laziness, fear of the unknown, lack of financial resources to back the dream, or low self-esteem. But you are better than you think and if you have a poor family support system, learn to go it alone if you must.
Don’t underestimate the courage, determination, and time needed to make the dream happen, and watch out for self-doubt. Whatever the reasons, don’t let your dream die with you. Martin Luther King Jr. had a dream. He declared it in his famous speech: “I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal.” Martin inspired many through his words of wisdom and his life. He helped to change the mindset of generations with his courage to live free. The sad thing was that dream killers came and shot him to death, however, they could never have taken the dream. Martin’s dream lives on, inspiring millions around the nations of the world. Don’t let others steal your dream or give them the power to create doubts and fear in you. Your dream is too important to let it die. Don’t allow fear, self-doubt, negativity, and procrastination to prevent you from going where your dream will take you. When you are confronted with dream killers, learn to protect your dream.
Don’t let others steal your dream!
Get away from relationships that contaminate your dream or diminish what you want to accomplish. Continuously nurture your dream by keeping it front and center on a daily basis. Always expect opposition to your dream, so that you are not taken aback or surprised. There will always be opposition to your dreams, but press on, press through, and work around the opposition. Pursue your dream with passion and wake up every morning with the belief and attitude that there is a major conspiracy to bless you and people on the lookout to help you along the path of success. Rest when you must but not for too long. Don’t allow discouragement to take a permanent hold or cause you to abort the dream. Nurture relationships in alignment with where you are going and surround yourself with people going where you are headed.